Is your teenager repeatedly refusing to go to school? Are you feeling frustrated, worried, confused, angry, or disappointed? If so, you’re not alone, and Holden can help.
For decades, Holden has transformed teens who hate school into students who love being a part of our tight-knit learning community.
At Holden, we first work to identify the underlying issue behind your teen’s school refusal.
A teenager’s life revolves heavily around school — think academics, sports, extracurricular activities, and social life. Therefore, school can be the setting for much of a teen’s anxiety. When kids resist going to school, it may not necessarily be about the school itself.
We often find that if someone is picking on your child, they may refuse school to avoid the torment. Or, if they are failing a subject, they may need help. Your teen could be worried about being called on randomly by a teacher, making a mistake, or having a panic attack in class. They may even be worried that they look wrong, and people will make fun of them.
Although there are a multitude of reasons why teens refuse to go to school, below are a few of them.
Their performance. Many anxious teenagers have a great fear of not doing well. Perfectionism or the need to do their best academically or in sports can lead to anxiety.
At Holden, we help students unburden themselves from the pressure of needing to be “perfect.” We provide an engaging and stimulating curriculum tailored to each student’s needs, abilities, and interests. In turn, our students exchange nervousness for curiosity and confidence.
Teens worry about how they are perceived. It’s a natural part of the adolescent process, but for some kids, this can result in debilitating social anxiety. In extreme cases, teens excessively worry about whether their peers see them as incompetent or stupid or doing something embarrassing.
Holden’s profoundly welcoming community, alternative school structure, and small class sizes ensure that every student is deeply valued and known. This unique configuration nurtures a sense of belonging and acceptance in students who often describe themselves as “outsiders.”
Their bodies. As a result of puberty, teenage bodies undergo tremendous physical changes. These changes can cause discomfort and profoundly impact self-esteem and confidence. Some kids become so focused on a perceived physical flaw (real or imagined) that it causes significant distress and interferes with their functioning.
Holden’s weekly 1-on-1 counseling and close-knit school community provide a safe space for students to unpack their experiences and receive ongoing support and guidance.
Anxiety symptoms in teens vary widely, from withdrawal and avoidance to irritability and lashing out. Because teenagers are good at hiding their thoughts and feelings, parents can miss signs of anxiety. Here are some behaviors that may signify a teenager’s anxiety.
Holden is a supportive high school community. We teach anxious kids strategies to assess the root cause of anxious thoughts and provide them with tools for thinking and responding to anxiety differently when it occurs.
Discover if our unique, vibrant school is a good fit for your family. Scheduling a tour is a great way to experience Holden. We are excited to meet you!
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